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A rant against butt-sitting criticisers

Let me just say that it disgusts me how people sit on their butts and criticise people who actually get off their butts. Grr. Your colleague makes me ill.

However, alongside that.... we Librans can maintain two completely contradictory conversations... it's a gift... The whole point of getting off your butt is to get the first version out there so that you can learn from it.

There's a divine BBC documentary (surprise surprise) called The Ascent of Money. Several famous people have filed for bankruptcy and American laws recognise that those that take the risks (or get off their butts) don't always succeed.... AND BETTER YET.... they learn from failure. It's really hard to succeed, and it needs practice.

I once heard that 3% of successful people just succeed right off the bat by having a great idea and doing it well and 97% of people take an old idea and do it better, some just add a simple ingredient like 'good service'.

So in actual fact, it's the huge-butt criticisers who learn nothing, and at the end of their lives have nothing to show for themselves except a cauldron full of demoralised people.

You know what I am doing? I am weeding. I no longer say to myself, Gee but I like all these other qualities about that person... nope, just unloading them and enjoying their absence. That is what I need the strength for, not for putting up with their criticisms and trying gainfully to keep my ego intact. I have lost good people who are attached to them, but I can't afford to prop up their egos anymore. I have shifted my focus away from them completely - you know how if you keep saying 'I don't want these negative people anymore' that you will draw them into your life, instead I have said, 'I want encouraging, warm people who enjoy me and who support me'. I have seen myself sabotage those relationships, so now I am trying to learn a better way with that issue.
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