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Who was your mentor and what did they teach you?

How lucky am I? My mother, Marion Pretorius, was my mentor. She taught me to say "No", and she taught me to say "Yes". To say "No" when people wanted to take advantage of me, and to create opportunity for good things to enter my life by saying "Yes". "Yes" makes room for you to have all sorts of experiences, to learn, and to grow your confidence. All sorts of confidence count as tickmarks. Confidence answering the phone. Confidence organising a function. Confidence using an email program. Confidence using... confidence doing... confidence making... confidence speaking... confidence in action. And as the pile of tickmarks grows, so does confidence.

Erick Mulaudzi Humbulani asked.

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Anonymous said…
My mentor is Diane Garnick, even though I never met her in person.

She taught me to never give up on myself and give back to society.

Di is the best mentor a girl could hope for.

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Diane-Garnick/188133090053
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Tanya Pretorius said…
Hi Anonymous, Thanks for responding to my note. And thanks for the fabulous tip. I have had a quick look and am very excited about Garnick. I am going to be spending my afternoon finding out more. :)
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