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Gay marriage vs Civil unions

Opaqueherm Very valuable questions, that you ask and that we all struggle with, whether or not we belong to a long-established hegemony or a newly-forming one. It does seem odd to seek marriage that has come up through the ranks of ages as a method of legitimising certain people over others - the progeny of this sort of union are better than the progeny of that sort of union. “This woman is my property, as are her children and my other property will go to them if I so decide.” Suzanne du Toit and Annemarie de Vos, who tested the adoption laws - that only one woman could adopt a child, not a pair of women. Annemarie adopted two children, and found that were she to die, that Suzanne would not legally be able to continue to live with and mother the children. They would have to go back into the foster care system and Suzanne would be offered no recognition of time served. They won. The courts now recognise, thanks to them, that those children belong to both women and no one can take th...

Ellen vs Rosie - attitude to their responsibility as lesbian rolemodels

Kim Ficera, talking about how it is irrelevant whether Ellen DeGeneres is contractually prevented from visibly being a lesbian or mentioning anything about lesbianism, or whether Ellen is self-willing her lesbian-silence - either way it makes Ficera want to switch to an alternative viewing network and watch out-and-loud Rosie O'Donnell: Ellen DeGeneres might be out and proud (although not as publicly proud as she once was) but Rosie O'Donnell is out and loud. Many lesbians will tune in to The View just to see what gay outburst Rosie will make next. Likewise, people who don't like lesbians will tune in for the same reason. That's surely something Walters thought about when she asked O'Donnell to join the show. Conversely, no one -- not even the biggest lesbian in the world, wherever she might be -- tunes into Ellen's show to watch her discuss lesbian issues, because she never talks about lesbian issues. And that's fine. I understand completely why Ellen mi...

I cannot bear criticism because it stfiles

I guess the real reason why I struggle to write... is that I CANNOT BEAR CRITICISM. It is something I really have to work on. It's my karmic hangover. I have been back for this a million times, I know it. I am so careful when I write and I cannot bear an assumption that I haven't thought of that criticism and made it the way I wanted it to be no matter what the criticism. I am STILL, yes really, STILL gritting my teeth about her response to my first paragraph, I know I have to forgive her, but I just can't. And do you know how carelessly she did it - she doesn't even remember me showing it to her or what it was about. Ok, Ok, I know I am no good in this department either, but it hurts just the same. I would rather not write than be subject to this kind of carelessness. A client recently said to me "Ag nee Froglet, ek het nie sulke lang tone nie", and gave birth to The Short-Toe Campaign. It's been going for about a month and I am fiercely promoting i...

Defining collaboration - an opportunity to share your soul

How can you possibly respect someone who cannot get off her butt and write but wants to tell others how to? Nope, I think it is unacceptable. And it makes me completely neurotic. Seriously. someone showed me some of her writing, where she saw birds flying in the moonless night sky. Needless to say, after my 'revisions' I never got asked again. I never jump off the cliff and can never be 'revised', but I submit others to 'revising'. Uh, Uhhh. Editing isn't work to me, unless you present me with a deadline. I love doing it. What I hate is doing what (I hate)[I don't really hate it, but it's not what I desire to do]{typesetting/design} for my friends, and then they think that they can get more out of me and make demands on me than they would on an ordinary typesetter. And the laws of business just disappear out the window. Guilt arrives for almost anything an ordinary day would call minor. When you do it willingly when asked, putting your soul into ...

How rapport works

Kinesthetic Auditory Visual Strategy mirror with changed content - Ask them questions to assses how their strategy works using the keywords, then bounce their style sequence back to them with your content. Do not assume that they use the same strategy all the time - strategies are context specific.

Is bullying different in a co-ed school?

Reversal of 'My mortal core was exposed.' Girls' school - Enid Blyton's Mallory Towers and The Twins at Saint Claire's. In a girls' school you don't learn how to look with a man's gaze until TV gets a good hold on you. I wonder in a mixed school that that is why you get girl bullies. Although it happens in girls' schools too, it isn't based on the traits boys like you for, it's based on your personality. In mixed schools it's how you look.

Mass activism by accident - the AIDS epidemic is very public and death is an activism

Activism can even be quitting your job and taking another: The turning point was the AIDS epidemic. As people were dying, closet doors flew open, and the straight world quickly learned that the gay one wasn't as alien as they imagined. In Hollywood, this had a particular effect via the Disney cartoon blockbusters "The Little Mermaid," "Beauty and the Beast" and "Aladdin." Because many of the leading Disney animators were gay, rival studios lured talent with the promise of same-sex spousal benefits. Faster than Aladdin's genie, this practice went industrywide, with a once-reluctant Disney falling right in line... Gay Marriage Gets Even Keep the confetti handy, because the tide has turned on same-sex unions. By David Ehrenstein

What did Mel Gibson say exactly?

RASCIST During Mel Gibson's arrest for drunk driving he uttered anti-semitic remarks - "Fucking Jews... The Jews are responsible for all the wars in the world." Gibson then asked the police officer, "Are you a Jew?" SEXIST: ANTI-WOMEN The media is going ballistic about the anti-semitism, but rarely is it reported that he uttered sexist anti-women remarks to a police officer, calling her 'sugar tits', during the same incident. He apologised after the drunken incident and included, I imagine, his sexist remarks, "I am deeply ashamed of everything I said." SEXIST: ANTI-BIRTH CONTROL "God is the only one who knows how many children we should have, and we should be ready to accept them." In my opinion, if he had said, "Women shouldn't work, they should stay home and look after broods of children, be at the beck and call of children all day, become brain dead, accept the harried woman she sees in the mirror, and give her h...

Put HIV Under G - a pocket for condoms - a great opportunity to highlight HIV in South Africa

Under G has produced a pair of boxers with a condom pocket in back. Girls are buying the boxers because it gives them a friendly and fun way to introduce a condom into their sexual exploits. See, there is always a solution to the problem, it just takes a moment to drag oneself away from the problem. Great,genius, The letter I wrote SAFM (where I heard the report): I loved the story about Under G (with the condom-pocket boxers). What brilliance! I think that the inventiveness of that problem solution should be focused on, that the inventor should be lauded, and rewarded for looking at the problem sideways and finding a way for women to introduce the condom issue into their sex lives in a fun way. I would pay R500 towards such a reward. But couldn't find them on the Net, but will keep hunting. Why don't you guys take the initiative... What an amazing advertising opportunity for you.

Socialist notions of sharing wealth

If you are very wealthy, the poor will target you. Whereas if you give up some of your wealth to help them, you protect yourself, because fewer people will be targeting you. So we need a society where the people are more or less all middle class. Once there, we can all move forward. Now, the poor are siphoning off the rich and the rich are running to stand still.

How to you make time?

When you look at your life you will see what it is that you love doing. Rather do what you love doing, do it well, make money to pay others to do what you don't want to do, but they have a passion for.

Pro-gay heterosexuals - they do exist

Somehow Dan Savage always puts a "d-uhh" spin on everything. I love the way his mind works, it tends to the obvious, whereas the rest of us try to make things so complicated. Dan Savage, editor of The Stranger, a Seattle alternative newspaper, argues it would be good for the district to send someone who is not gay to the Legislature. "When a district with a powerful gay bloc sends a pro-gay heterosexual to the Legislature, that makes a statement to the other heterosexual legislators about the possibility of being a pro-gay straight legislator," said Savage. Source: The Seattle Times

Zanele Muholi Exhibition

Subject: Zanele Muholi Exhibition From: Fetsiboomsticks What: Only Half the Picture by Zanele Muholi Where: Market Theatre Photographic Workshop, 2nd President Street, Newtown (About two blocks from the Market Theatre, across the big parking lot away from the Theatre and the Nelson Mandela Bridge, not that next block, the next one, about in the middle of the block you will see large metal gates that have images welded into the metal) then you can park in there and the Workshop is to your left up a tiny little set of stairs, ring the bell and you will be let in). Why: Lesbian/women/feminist images Where: Market Theatre Photographic Workshop, for viewing details call 011-630-4460. When: Until 10 September 2006, I think. How much: Entrance if free, but there is a book of the exhbition, that I had to get into car, go all the way to vaguely safe ATM, draw money, walk, pay attendant (who didn't believe I would be back again), walk, back in car, drive back, buy book - it...