Flying Shortbread

when women are silent, it's the silent treatment; when men are silent; they are thinking men have to be coddled - women must say please hold my hand, please take me out, please hold me don't leave (erhhh.... I know he is saying understand each other and change your behaviors for each other, but really! On the other hand, thanks to Dan, I always say - communicated!) stress hormones make men sleep, don't make women sleep stressors have to be 8 times more serious for men to react to a thing as a 'problem' - men look at them as if they are mad when they get stressed out over small things menopause is much more difficult nowadays because of all the stress, take oxytocin getting men to listen - 'Honey, just talk to me for five minutes.' If you put a end time on it, they are more likely to be engaged while doing it.

Keith Olbermann interviews Dan Savage and says: Obama is "Goddamned Wrong" on Don't Ask, Don't Tell Policy Fetsiboomsticks: Can I say it AGAIN. Dan Savage's verbal acuity blows my braincells apart. "Obama is the president, he doesn't have to blink out distress signals, he can issue orders" and "How many more retrograde bigots do we have to wait to get up to speed for" and "(Obama) needs to stop pandering to religious conservatives, not all religious people oppose rights for gays and lesbians" and "There's tremendous symbolic value to (the president raising the issue of abolishing Don't Ask, Don't Tell"). :) Still blown away. Source: YouTub e via Facebook

Sjoe, there are so many things going right! Right this second the thing that is impressing me is learning that "A relationship is built on trust" is a phrase that is vilely, disgustingly, putridifyingly, irritatingly, suckily, annoyingly passive. Spit! Dan Savage, as always brilliant because he agrees with me incessantly, points out that in order to build trust with someone who is jealous, you give them the power. They control you and you submit to their control with the trust that they are working towards letting you have that other relationship that you need to fulfill whatever need it is you are looking to be filled. They learn to trust you with babysteps, and you learn if they will abuse their power to deprive you of what you need. This is the truncated version. See Dan for details. :)

or, Why I Love Dan Dan Savage was attacking (verbally, on a podcast) a man who had posed as a woman who wanted to be beaten on Craigslist. The man then proceeded to publish the names, photographs, phone numbers and email addresses of everyone who responded to his fake ad. Dan was furious because those men whose names were published were doing the right thing. When you go and meet a stranger for sex (don't do it on the first date, because Dan says you should never plan sex on the first date - that way you can get out of the second date with more diplomacy if you need to. But I digress...), you should get their name, photo, phone number and email address and then tell them that you are giving their details to a TRUSTED friend. That way if you don't arrive back from your spanking, bruised, but with a smile on your face - your trusted friend will phone the cops. A spanker who wants to spank safely and consensually, will agree. Who knew, that just like in the Vanilla World, where m...

Somehow Dan Savage always puts a "d-uhh" spin on everything. I love the way his mind works, it tends to the obvious, whereas the rest of us try to make things so complicated. Dan Savage, editor of The Stranger, a Seattle alternative newspaper, argues it would be good for the district to send someone who is not gay to the Legislature. "When a district with a powerful gay bloc sends a pro-gay heterosexual to the Legislature, that makes a statement to the other heterosexual legislators about the possibility of being a pro-gay straight legislator," said Savage. Source: The Seattle Times

And if anyone reading this believes that gay men can actually become ex-gay men, I have just one question for you: Would you want your daughter to marry one? Evangelical Christians seem sincere in their desire to help build healthy, lasting marriages. Well, if that's their goal, encouraging gay men to enter into straight marriages is a peculiar strategy. Every straight marriage that includes a gay husband is one Web-browser-history check away from an ugly divorce. Dan Savage If not, you believe that homosexuality is innate, and that the homosexual cannot 'decide' to be heterosexual.

Newspapers, who are complaining about falling ratings, should think about this. Mediabistro and Savage were discussing that some or other newspaper censored a Doonesbury comic because it mentioned masturbation. If you don't have anything in your paper that's going to upset a five-year-old then 35-year-olds are going to look elsewhere for the kind of writing that appeals to them and speaks to them...I think the comics page is really the bellwether of the health of the daily newspaper. Dan Savage

Note I didn't send to the corporate owners of the place I work for, for fear of reprisal. Sad, really sad. I believe this page was blocked in error because: Dan Savage is an advice columnist. The content of his columns includes, granted, fetishism, note 'includes', as opposed to 'solely consists of how-to's'. Dan Savage's advice is sane and safety oriented. You should be glad that students would be looking up how-to do things safely, both in terms of the things they do and with whom. I can assure you that it would be unlikely for students to be sitting masturbating over Dan Savage's sane advice. Dan tells it like it is: “With all due respect, Glen, fuck your complex underlying factors--and don’t change the subject. I wanna talk about gay men who infect other gay men with HIV. Like a lot of HIV-positive guys, you would no doubt prefer to discuss HIV-negative gay men who take foolish risks... HIV infection rates among gay men continue to rise despite...

This advice from [ Dan Savage ] to the loveless is timeless, and so well put... Listen up, girls. Your awkward/repulsive stage will pass. In the meantime, here's what you need to do: Worry less about getting your 15-year-old self laid and start thinking about getting your 18- or 20-year-old self laid. Join a gym and get yourself a body that girls will find irresistible; read so that you'll have something to say to girls (the best way to make girls think you're interesting is to actually be interesting); and get out of the house and do shit--political shit, sporty shit, arty shit--so that you'll meet different kinds of girls in different kinds of settings and become comfortable talking with them. Some more orders: Get a decent haircut and use deodorant and floss your teeth and take regular showers and wear clean clothes. Go online and read all about birth control and STDs, and learn enough about female anatomy that you'll be able to find a clitoris in the dark. Mas...