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"I'm sorry it's not for you," and go talk to someone who's open. Pick yourself. Deniability comes from having someone pick you. Capitalism trained us to give up our autonomy for wealth.

Goal > Three ideas > Objective No detours past 'interesting'. Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NUXkThfQx6A

Esther Perel, Affairs in the digital age are a death by a thousand cuts. (Speaking of digital tracking of your lover’s affair. Not leaving, in an era when you can leave, is the new shame. We used to leave because we had to leave, now we leave because we could be happier. “Cheating” in the digital age by Esther Perel #TEDTalks @fakedansavage. Even happy people cheat to feel alive, “is there more”? Esther Perel, That you can never have your lover is a desire machine, keeps you wanting. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, When we are doing what we shouldn’t do, we feel like we are doing what we want to. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, When exposed, couples have discussions they haven’t had in decades, rekindles desire with truth. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, Remorse for hurting the partner, but not for the affair. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, When you stay: Your first marriage is over, do you want to start another one. #TEDTalks Source: Why happy couples cheat - Esther Perel ht...

TED: Rachel Botsman: The currency of the new economy is trust Reputation is the measurement of how much a network trusts you. As the reputation goes up the more tasks you get and the more you can charge. As we move digitally we leave a reputation trail. Let's make our reputation travel with us from site to site. But one score is not nuanced enough to really reflect us. Influence is not the same as reputation - that people like us does not reflect on whether or not we can do tasks. So how do we collect reputation data. Realtime stream of who has trusted me or responded to a task I have done. My reputation capital dashboard will be checked by others, like Linkedin. TrustCloud, ConnectMe. Your intentions, capabilities and values. It can create an influence positive disruption in who has power, influence and trust, taking power from the current powerholders. We are limited because our reputation currently cannot be measured or seen in relation to the celebrity power holders. M...

• violence interruptors - workers from same group, trained, cool them down, talk reason, buying time • outreach workers - keep people in the program, on therapy for 6-24 months focusing on behaviour change • changing norms - community activities • Chicago project dropped violence 67%, this has worked 20 times between 30% and 70% drop in violence. • criticism 

• shape not react - course correct strategy as necessary • networks - diverse as possible, and can connect, and cooperate to achieve gold • courage - to abandon what has previously worked, cope with ridicule Evernote helps you remember everything and get organized effortlessly. Download Evernote .

Having a small gap between rich and poor puts our lives into the same spaces, makes us rub up against each other. We work and shop in the same places, our children go to the same schools. Democracy requires that we share in a common life, that we encounter one another. This teaches us to abide our differences and care for the common good. There's a moral and civic good that the market cannot honor. http://www.ted.com/talks/michael_sandel_why_we_shouldn_t_trust_markets_with_our_civic_life.html

#TED: Dambisa Moyo: Is China the new idol for emerging economies? Raising economic rights over political rights, over freedom. More state involvement, more protectionism, declining individual rights. West can compete or co-operate. Instead of haranguing China for the way it's doing things, show them if (not THAT) it can be done better. 

TED: Rachel Botsman: The currency of the new economy is trust Reputation is the measurement of how much a network trusts you. As the reputation goes up the more tasks you get and the more you can charge. As we move digitally we leave a reputation trail. Let's make our reputation travel with us from site to site. But one score is not nuanced enough to really reflect us. Influence is not the same as reputation - that people like us does not reflect on whether or not we can do tasks. So how do we collect reputation data. Realtime stream of who has trusted me or responded to a task I have done. My reputation capital dashboard will be checked by others, like Linkedin. TrustCloud, ConnectMe. Your intentions, capabilities and values. It can create an influence positive disruption in who has power, influence and trust, taking power from the current powerholders. We are limited because our reputation currently cannot be measured or seen in relation to the celebrity power holders. M...

The first thing I want to do is say thank you to all of you. The second thing I want to do is introduce my co-author and dear friend and co-teacher. Ken and I have been working together for almost 40 years. That's Ken Sharpe over there. (Applause) So there is among many people -- certainly me and most of the people I talk to -- a kind of collective dissatisfaction with the way things are working, with the way our institutions run. Our kids' teachers seem to be failing them. Our doctors don't know who the hell we are, and they don't have enough time for us. We certainly can't trust the bankers, and we certainly can't trust the brokers. They almost brought the entire financial system down. And even as we do our own work, all too often, we find ourselves having to choose between doing what we think is the right thing and doing the expected thing, or the required thing, or the profitable thing. So everywhere we look, pretty much across the board, we worry that t...

David R. Dow says that violence at home breeds violence on the streets. My comment: This is a tough one. With the pace of change, parents who aren't keeping up feel that they have become useless and burdens to their kids. Parents feel that they have to pander to their children's desires in order to maintain the relationship. Parents have lost their confidence among the criticisms of how they bring up their kids and the minutiae of 'correct' breast-feeding. Their self-deprecation leads to self-loathing and violence. The globalization of knowledge has brought with it judgementalism, people looking over their neighbour's walls figuratively through the TV and other media. When accused, people act aggressively. And women... Women are so much more likely to not passively accept their husband's violence. Violence breeds more violence. The whole structure of the family needs to change to accommodate. And that's scary. I believe Dan has the answer.

Have each other at a distance we can control - The Goldilocks Effect We only pay attention to what we want to in a presentation, and never get to hear what we don't want to hear, this is a problem Conversations problem - we can't control what we want to say, we edit ourselves, we are just right, not too much, not too little Cleaning up relationships with technology Good for connection but not for really understanding each other Facebook makes up for feeling like no one is listening to me We're developing social robots for the elderly (robodog) We're lonely, but we are afraid of intimacy I share therefor I am Not suggesting to turn away from the devices, just make room for other stuff

everytime you earn more, save more.  monthly saving is difficult, present bias (immediate gratification) makes you think of how you have to give up something now we think about saving in the present, but spend in the long run. We diet today, eat tomorrow speaks of checking the box during an organ donor situation in licence aquisition. Germany shortage - you have to check the box to say yes. Austria you have to check the box to say No... they have organs for Africa. In terms of saving... create a situation where people have to opt out. Opting out takes effort. if you say, Yes, I want to save, that's half of the effort. Next automate the process. if you defer saving to when you get a raise, then it's a small percentage of that extra making the decisions around saving are complex, too many points to consider 1 in 10 Americans save enough Singaporeans spend average $4000 per year on lotto. Americans $1000.

product knowledge diffusion... it must be remarkable, on the social networking sell to people who are listening, and hope that they care enough to tell their friends being good is boring, be remarkable

why do you make a gate that can close on child and crush the child then there's a sticker maker who has to make a sticker to say, This could crush your child, and he makes the sticker because he doesn't have the authority to go down the corridor and say Fix this gate - this breeds "not my job" thinking sometimes you have to break it for other people to see that it wasn't broken

say yes to everyone who wants something from you he wanted to have to stop saying no he started to feel that he was generous, he started to see the change he wanted in the world

cut - less units to choose from concretise - make it real categories - more categories, fewer choices condition - let me practice complexity

experience bars measuring progress - instead of small reward increments give lots of task - keep the tasks small and measurable, break things down into many tasks reward effort - don't punish failure feedback - must link consequences to action, feel a lesson, model lessons uncertainty - neurological goldmine, the reward that they weren't sure they were going to get, there was an unlikelihood, the real turnon is doing stuff with other people, collaboration

If you get the answer wrong in science it hurts lots of people, and possibly kills them. You pay a fine, you go to jail. How come we think all cultures are right, even when they result in demeaning things all the way up to torture and murder. Harris mentioned the burqa.

State governments are no longer the places where things happen, they are lumbering. We must make it happen. Make meetings between warring members.