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Homosexuality is not a choice for Mineart

My homosexuality on the other hand, is NOT A CHOICE. I didn't pick it. I wouldn't change it if I could, any more than any black person would deliberately go out and change the color of their skin. It's a part of me. But I certainly didn't choose it, any more than the color of my hair, my height, or any other part of me.

I've written this a billion times, and I'm writing it again. What makes me gay isn't my behavior, it's my feelings. Homosexuality isn't about behavior, it's about who you fall in love with and are attracted to. Choice has nothing to do with it.

Of course I could choose to marry a man and have a monogamous relationship with him for the rest of my life. But that wouldn't make me heterosexual. That would make me a gay woman in a relationship with a man. A miserable relationship that I hated, he hated, and any children we had hated. It would be a destructive mess to everyone concerned. Want proof of that? If you're heterosexu…

Never hire a woman, you become part of her problem solution tools

A man phones to 702 who thinks it's totally unfair that when you hire a woman, you, in effect, hire her family. Why must he provide after-school care or a creche? Why must he put up with her taking days off to care for sick children, or sick relatives? It's not his problem. He hired her to do the work and if she doesn't do the work why can't he fire her.

What amazes me is that women don't say, "Fuck this for a loop." and stop having children, stop taking the children after a divorce, why don't they let the men have the children, sterilize themselves and see how the fuckers like that.

Jan Smuts airport name change to OR Tambo

Jenny Crws-Williams made an excellent point under interrogation by the radio presenter. The topic was the name change from Johannesburg International to Oliver Thambo Airport - from lauding an apartheid-era guy to lauding a post-apartheid guy. She said, why change it from one form of apartheid to another.

My feminist view of the patriarchal hegemony

Women who will not identify as feminist cite a fear that they will be identified with hairy, ugly, man-hating bulldykes. How strange that they use patriarchally hegemonized thinking to frame the issue. They shave the hair the paedophillic men eschew, they paint 'beauty' onto their faces like geisha masks and they blind their brains to the inhumane perpetrations of men on society and then they fuck the men. Essentially they are us, hairy and ugly. They just fuck the enemy.

Protesting corporate mind control

Note I didn't send to the corporate owners of the place I
work for, for fear of reprisal. Sad, really sad.

I believe this page was blocked in error because:
Dan Savage is an advice columnist. The content of his columns includes, granted, fetishism, note 'includes', as opposed to 'solely consists of how-to's'. Dan Savage's advice is sane and safety oriented. You should be glad that students would be looking up how-to do things safely, both in terms of the things they do and with whom. I can assure you that it would be unlikely for students to be sitting masturbating over Dan Savage's sane advice. Dan tells it like it is:

“With all due respect, Glen, fuck your complex underlying factors--and don’t change the subject. I wanna talk about gay men who infect other gay men with HIV. Like a lot of HIV-positive guys, you would no doubt prefer to discuss HIV-negative gay men who take foolish risks... HIV infection rates among gay men continue to rise despite the …

The downside of digital skins

Yuck. Skins kill the look and feel of whatever they are applied to.
Homogenizes. Prevents looking at the totality of the item, cutting out
everything the skin doesn't recognize because it hasn't been included
in the formula. Imagination and creativity of creator killed. If the
idea is to cut out the vile designs, the too-full pages, the attention
grabbing by the irrelevant, then I suggest we take the hint and
attention grab only the relevant and do it the hell beautifully. If
'Homogenize' was a billboard who would do it? I want a list, damn it,
some stats. Get onto it.

Portrait of a friend's dogs, by Helen Timm

From left to right: Zambo, Cuzco and Tintin. I saw Zambo and Cuzco in Napier in December. I swear Zambo recognized me, although it has been six or seven years. I cried. Helen has gone, but in a way her soul lives on in her dogs and in her friends and in her house, that is still as it was when she died last year.

Meme tagging: Books

1. Estimate the total number of books you’ve owned in your life.

I’d say there are roughly 6000 books lurking around the house. A trillion years ago I read Mills & Boons and when I gave them away finally there were 486 ~ and in those days you handed two books into a second-hand book store to get one. And then there was the discovery of Better Books, a credit card hell where the owner only gets second-hand books in that are on his discerning list, NOT just anything. And then there was the discovery of the safeness of ordering from Amazon. And the collection of uteral feminist books from Exclusive Books back when I was studying. Yip, I need a bigger house.

2. What’s the last book you bought? Can one operate in the singular when finding oneself in a book department?

I really only read the books on palmistry and feminism, the others I just put my eyes onto the words.

Macho Sluts by Pat Califia
The Pythons by Graham Chapman
Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex by Pat Califia

3. What’…

2006 Goals

Maintained goals from before.

* separate my rubbish
* keep pollution generated by me to a minimum
* rescue stray animals and find their owners
* rescue broken winged creatures of all kinds
* maintain high quality love in my relationship

In the mood I am in 'survive' would be at the top of the list.

* write outlines for the next 40 scenes of my book
* think of a title for said book
* blog more, exercise my 'voice' once a week
* summarize one document a week
* read a book a month
* rebuild my friendships
* change my mind, consciously not maintain my status quo
* do 30 minutes of exercise per week
* lose 20 pounds

In a different universe, but maybe, just maybe, in mine.

* finish my book
* surf 24 hours per day
* write a video game story
* apply to Ubisoft for a job
* move to Canada to do the job
* build a room for myself where everything fits in and put a big fat gate on it
* make a vagina dentata/menstrual artwork that I am proud o…

Straight talk about sexual relationships

Just because a guy wants to fuck you doesn't necessarily mean he likes you. If he says he loves you, it doesn't necessarily mean he likes you. If he marries you, it doesn't necessarily mean he likes you. If you are confused about how he feels about you, if the slightest doubt exists in your mind about whether or not he likes you ~ he doesn't like you. Older guys that come onto younger girls are too immature to attract mature (sorted) women. Or they are paedophiles. Guys who want to fuck models are into pre-pubesent boys (consider the similarity in body shape). Nobody tells young guys about the clit, you must. The only way to make sure you have the pick of good relationships is to make sure that you are funny, intelligent and warm ~ if someone wants something other than that they haven't worked out what is important yet, dump 'em. Men won't wear condoms unless you force them, can you? You have just as much right to express your sexuality AS YOU WANT TO as ev…

Loving advice for teens by Dan Savage

This advice from [Dan Savage] to the loveless is timeless, and so well put... Listen up, girls.

Your awkward/repulsive stage will pass. In the meantime, here's what you need to do: Worry less about getting your 15-year-old self laid and start thinking about getting your 18- or 20-year-old self laid. Join a gym and get yourself a body that girls will find irresistible; read so that you'll have something to say to girls (the best way to make girls think you're interesting is to actually be interesting); and get out of the house and do shit--political shit, sporty shit, arty shit--so that you'll meet different kinds of girls in different kinds of settings and become comfortable talking with them. Some more orders: Get a decent haircut and use deodorant and floss your teeth and take regular showers and wear clean clothes. Go online and read all about birth control and STDs, and learn enough about female anatomy that you'll be able to find a clitoris in the dark. Mastur…

Muscle-ing is using muscles without actually pushing and shoving, defined

This weekend I had an experience with forced pleasantness. A man, using muscle-ing on a woman counter helper. Distracting her from helping me, flirting. And she tried to be polite but didn't look at him (to not encourage him, I imagine), she kept her eyes on me, she was helping me. But he persisted. That resulted in me mouthing off. I let him know in no uncertain terms that he must wait his turn and that he was making my turn take longer, wrestling control of my turn from me. Still he resisted, he cannot be wrong. I told him that he's the kind of guy that goes home and beats up his wife because she can never control her little bit of space. He asked my why I was over-reacting, I screamed "Over-reacting, who gets to decide what level is normal, am I supposed to just passively have no reaction to your rudeness?" My parting shot was that he is just like all men, ugly and stupid. He was muscle-ing both me and the counter helper, taking over the situation. We were expecte…