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I agree with the part that suggests, but doesn't state clearly, that it's the 'receiving' male homosexual that is reviled - because he 'becomes the woman'. Homophobists are not-coincidentally also sexists, and I would venture, racists. These kinds of ignorances clump together, have an affinity for one another. To disguise their disgust at the head of the food chain 'acting like a woman' (their most reviled caste member being 'a woman') they expand and justify their bigotry to the 'delivering' man and the women that reflect that pair, the lesbians. And then, to justify their bigotry further... let me go no further, I have been riled up recently by someone demonstrating this point I am making, and I may be ready to blow a fuse. On another note, homophobists use their hatred of gays to establish their 'not-belonging' to the gay group. They parade their heterosexuality so that no one can mistakenly place them in that group. They build...

#Queer ~ People hate this term. I don't. I hear that it is self-derisive and used as hate speech and can't be reclaimed and is self-poison, but I don't agree. To me the 'LGBTI' is so structured, it negates the fluidity of sexuality. For one,  it excludes non-heteronormative hets. I use queer, and I want all people who don't fit into 'normal' to be 'queer' by choice. I invite them to be, I want everyone to see that 'queer' is the new 'normal'.  # Queer  ~ 'Queer' recognizes fluidity in sexuality. LGBTI is confining, exclusionary. Non-heteronormative hets could choose to be 'queer'.

It is no longer politically correct to say "Lesbian". They are now called "Vagitarians".

Flashback Friday, a column on feminist notions... The short version of the story so far: School had a fake prom and sent Ceara Sturgis - the lesbian - and disabled students - to the fake prom while parents organised a secret offsite prom and invited the rest of the student body; left her out of the yearbook despite the fact that she is an honors student (drug dealers are in the yearbook); tortured, marginalised, stigmatised . I think the morality of the hatemongers that would do these things to Sturgis is questionable. They think they are standing up against a declining morality. I think the hatemongers are the leaders of the decline. They think that their children will not be gay because they fear the reaction of their parents. I think the hatemongers' children will be fearful and gay. They think they are standing up for God's word. I think the hatemongers are the definition of what God does not want. They think they are showing their children what is right. I think the...

Flashback Friday, a column on feminist notions... Fetsiboomsticks at Flying Shortbread invited me to write a post for her blog, and may I just say, I was so flattered!  I have never been asked to be a guest writer in someone's blog, and maybe I'm being dramatic, but it's an honor.  :-)  So here's my story for her, and a thanks. This is something that has just really been made painfully aware to me recently, and makes me feel very thankful for how far we've come.  Yes, we still have quite a journey ahead, but hey, at least we're moving in the right direction.  I have a friend, T.  T is 47 years old, and I have been doing her hair for about 2 years (I'm a hairstylist).  I have recently gone into business for myself, and left the salon where I was working, and am now going to my client's homes to do their hair. You wouldn't believe how many of my clients have COMPLETELY opened up to me about their lives since I have started seeing them at home, ...

Before ... President Jacob Zuma, before he was elected, said that "When I was growing up, unqingili (homosexuals) could not stand in front of me. I would knock him out." He later apologised for the remark. The insult ... Lulu Xingwana, Arts and Culture Minister, stormed out of the exhibition, Innovative Women, before making a scheduled speech, saying, "Our mandate is to promote social cohesion and nation-building. I left the exhibition because it expressed the very opposite of this. It was immoral, offensive and going against nation-building." She went on to say it was time for "a long overdue debate on what is art and where do we draw the line between art and pornography." Afterward ... Although Xingwana denies this, three insiders told The Times that after the department’s lawyers found nothing pornographic about the art, she then called in lawyers from a Pretoria law firm to “inspect” the work. Insiders said they were flown to Cape Town for the open...

A repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" will only allow those gays and lesbians who are already in the military to quit hiding. The (guys) in the military are already showering with gay (men). This is not about ALLOWING gays into the military, if you make a law that says 'you may not' then people will just find a more ingenious way of doing it secretly.

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It is about forcing or imposing the gay/lesbian community's will and morality on people who believe it contradicts their morality. And once it has the power of law behind it, it will eventually foster things like forcing ministers, priests, rabbis, etc., to officiate at these "weddings," or their churches/synagogues lose their tax status and worse. Sort of like Catholic medical schools that, for a period of time not that long ago, were mandated to teach abortion or lose their accreditation, forcing medical students of conscience who wanted to have an accredited degree to be seriously affected. It's about the terminology that this powerful lobbying force thinks it needs, which is chillingly similar to the sanitizing language change imposed on us by the abortion lobby in 1973; e.g., "fetus" for unborn baby, "eliminate tissue" vs. kill a child, etc. Source: Seacoastonline.com

Why do They feel justified to be violent when confronted with gender and sexuality-based Otherness? It could be that people are very aware of insecurity that lies behind violence. The insecurity would only be one of the causes of violence... one of the others might be (I know I am going to get stoned for this) that They perceive an arrogance on the part of Us - how dare we flaunt (Otherness), not hide (Otherness) like 'respectable people'. Eek.

Keith Olbermann interviews Dan Savage and says: Obama is "Goddamned Wrong" on Don't Ask, Don't Tell Policy Fetsiboomsticks: Can I say it AGAIN. Dan Savage's verbal acuity blows my braincells apart. "Obama is the president, he doesn't have to blink out distress signals, he can issue orders" and "How many more retrograde bigots do we have to wait to get up to speed for" and "(Obama) needs to stop pandering to religious conservatives, not all religious people oppose rights for gays and lesbians" and "There's tremendous symbolic value to (the president raising the issue of abolishing Don't Ask, Don't Tell"). :) Still blown away. Source: YouTub e via Facebook

Yes, I guess there is absolutely no bestiality and incest going on in the world, legal or otherwise. I guess the straights aren't responsible for that in any way shape or form. It's all the fault of gay people. The logic that homosexuals are responsible for bestiality and incest escapes me. Heterosexuals' legal marriages have not rid the world of bestiality or incest. Where have you ever seen that crimes against others get legalized? Only crimes against self have been legalized. Are we crimes against humanity ? ARE HOMOSEXUALS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BESTIALITY AND INCEST IN THE WORLD ? Is the the issue around gay marriage being equated with legalising perversion. Is the underlying issue that gays are still a buncha perverts? A buncha criminals? And what are you suggesting - that governments/Christians/heterosexuals get rid of them altogether? Are gays vermin? Is apartheid based on sexual orientation OK? Come out and say what you want to say... I am inviting you out of your c...

The perpetrator spent the day drinking and taking drugs in a gay bar with the victims and then, when they invited him to their home, he stabbed them 57 times, killed them, covered up his actions. He was acquitted. Some of the facts: Triviño and Luciano lived together in Spain were planning to get married. They were stabbed to death by Jacobo Piñeiro Rial in their apartment on 13 January 2006. The bodies showed a total of 57 stab wounds After killing them, Piñeiro took a shower and cleaned himself up. He filled a suitcase with some of their belongings to make it look like a robbery and then spilled clothing all over the place. He poured alcohol over everything, including his victims' bodies, turned on the gas spigot on the stove, and set everything on fire. The local fire department said that little evidence would have survived if it wasn't for their prompt response to the 5-alarm fire. Piñeiro hardly knew the men. Testimony revealed that Piñiero had spent the previous afte...

A Vatican representative claims that HIV can pass through condoms. The World Health Organisation refutes. Head of the Vatican Pontifical Council for the Family, Cardinal Alfonso Lopez Trujillo, said, in 2003: "The Aids virus is roughly 450 times smaller than the spermatozoon. The spermatozoon can easily pass through the 'net' that is formed by the condom ." The World Health Organization assured us this was nonsense. People vested with the power to influence large numbers of people should be well educated in their field of influence. Cardinals are not scientists, but they are central to the Condom / Abstinence debate. This was reckless. But don't worry, he died a year ago.

23 people Centre for Conscious Leadership structure: introduce everyone, introduce organization what makes us proud, excited, fearful to meet each other excited: connection, part of queer community, possibility fear: challenged by others, revealing, reports to be made, names to be revealed, white space (not very black)  deep democracy: process of large group, diversity - careful of minorities, introduction to roles in groups, you can change roles during talk, not just a personal view. Hotspots - the facilitators will deheat-support for safety. Zuma said he would hit a gay man Qwelane's blog taken off Media 24 and being watched at work need a queer media forum, media is at talk Qwelane should be challenged by his peers need a reaction to hate crime, not just reaction to article the voice of dead gays, they live in a world where survival is more important than Qwelane's words do we want an apology is Qwelane's the majority view blase about homophobia, don'...

Flashback Friday, a column on feminist notions ... Many of my friends had such a big cadenza over being gay. I had absolutely none. I never had the notion that it was not OK and more importantly I never had the notion that anyone could tell me what I could and could not do or be. The Cheek! My sister didn't have to go to Daddy and say, Gee Dad, I am sorry, I am straight, why must I go to Daddy and say, Gee Dad, I am sorry, I am gay. Ag nee man! But my friends definitely suffered. And I have participated in Masters degree surveys and the girls definitely were surprised that I don't have issues. I am generally a confident person. No issues about being fat, or hairy, or butch or whatever. Shame, poor you, you probably just had a frisson of disgust. Yes, girls have hair... and it's OK you don't have to sleep with them. Giggle. I think it may be harder for guys, no pun intended. Girls' lesbianism is considered a latent sexuality, 'It's OK, once they have ...

Flashback Friday, a column on feminist notions... An email doing the rounds, I received this from a Facebook connection - but via the email: A pornographic movie is being shot and is intended to show up in America soon, which shows Jesus and his disciples as homosexuals. This is similar to a play that has been in the Theatre halls for a while. It’s called Corpus Christi “ which means “The Body of Christ”. It is a revolting joke of our Lord. But we can make a difference, that’s why I’m sending this e-mail to all of you. Could you, please, add your name to this e-mail’s list’s end? If you do so, together we may be able to ban this movie from being shown in America . Apparently, some regions from Europe have banned the movie already. All we need is a lot of signatures! Remember, Jesus said: “That he who denies Me before men, I will also deny Him before my Father which is in heaven.” Please, do not simply forward, put your name at the end of the list and send to all your contacts. When...

Photo by Steph Mineart on Flickr.com Why is it as a culture we are more comfortable seeing 2 men holding guns than holding hands? and Jon Stewart asks "Why can't they have gay people in the army? Personally, I think they are just afraid of a thousand guys with M16s going, "Who'd you call a faggot?"

Opaqueherm Very valuable questions, that you ask and that we all struggle with, whether or not we belong to a long-established hegemony or a newly-forming one. It does seem odd to seek marriage that has come up through the ranks of ages as a method of legitimising certain people over others - the progeny of this sort of union are better than the progeny of that sort of union. “This woman is my property, as are her children and my other property will go to them if I so decide.” Suzanne du Toit and Annemarie de Vos, who tested the adoption laws - that only one woman could adopt a child, not a pair of women. Annemarie adopted two children, and found that were she to die, that Suzanne would not legally be able to continue to live with and mother the children. They would have to go back into the foster care system and Suzanne would be offered no recognition of time served. They won. The courts now recognise, thanks to them, that those children belong to both women and no one can take th...

Kim Ficera, talking about how it is irrelevant whether Ellen DeGeneres is contractually prevented from visibly being a lesbian or mentioning anything about lesbianism, or whether Ellen is self-willing her lesbian-silence - either way it makes Ficera want to switch to an alternative viewing network and watch out-and-loud Rosie O'Donnell: Ellen DeGeneres might be out and proud (although not as publicly proud as she once was) but Rosie O'Donnell is out and loud. Many lesbians will tune in to The View just to see what gay outburst Rosie will make next. Likewise, people who don't like lesbians will tune in for the same reason. That's surely something Walters thought about when she asked O'Donnell to join the show. Conversely, no one -- not even the biggest lesbian in the world, wherever she might be -- tunes into Ellen's show to watch her discuss lesbian issues, because she never talks about lesbian issues. And that's fine. I understand completely why Ellen mi...