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David R. Dow says that violence at home breeds violence on the streets. My comment: This is a tough one. With the pace of change, parents who aren't keeping up feel that they have become useless and burdens to their kids. Parents feel that they have to pander to their children's desires in order to maintain the relationship. Parents have lost their confidence among the criticisms of how they bring up their kids and the minutiae of 'correct' breast-feeding. Their self-deprecation leads to self-loathing and violence. The globalization of knowledge has brought with it judgementalism, people looking over their neighbour's walls figuratively through the TV and other media. When accused, people act aggressively. And women... Women are so much more likely to not passively accept their husband's violence. Violence breeds more violence. The whole structure of the family needs to change to accommodate. And that's scary. I believe Dan has the answer.

Martin Luther King - I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be Mother Theresa - The problem with the world is that we draw the circle of the family to small We give too much voice to the most divisive amongst us Book titles reflect this - Pinheads and patriots; Arguing with idiots Negative otherizing morphs into violent extremism Counteracting otherizing A strategy: Take the other to lunch Agree on some ground rules - ahead of time Be conversational, don't persuade, interrupt, be curious, listen, be real, don't try to change the other side, acknowledge that it's a first step What issues concern you, what have you always wanted to ask someone from the other side Two people dropping the pretence of being know it alls Two people practicing ubuntu

Data deluge, complexity - experts can process the info better and can come to better conclusions than we can We give them parental-like authority Big problem Experts divide themselves into rigid camps, worshiping their own gurus, eschewing dissent We have to take them on and persist in the face of their annoyance We have to ask questions about their methodologies Google CEO actively looks for the arms-crossed disassociated person in the room Democratized expertise - shop girls get a say with the forecasting team for the company Best Buy introduced a gambling chip - employees could bet on stuff and they discovered important flaws in projects