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Actions I have taken as a feminist activist

Flashback Friday, a column on feminist notions...

womensspace asked the question... "What have you done for me lately?"

  • doing my bit to get rid of the Ms-Miss-Mrs to None
  • offer a place to stay to women who have been abused (several)
  • rescued a woman in a violent-home situation
  • pick up women hitchhikers
  • disseminate information about feminism
  • actively support the activities of other women, even when the women themselves would not self-identify themselves or the activities as feminist
  • promote a theme of the-man's-friends-are-culpable-in-an-abuse-of-women-situation
  • act against women who abuse
  • raise awareness in relationships that one of the partners is not enhancing the goals of the other partner
  • make sure that women enter their houses safely before I leave, after dropping them off
  • blog
  • raise consciousness about informed choice
  • raise awareness of sexual gratification
  • do general computer-fun training for women at every opportunity
  • took the education of the daughter of an underprivileged person onto my plate
  • give money to women on many occasions
  • provide women with gadgets that would help them in an envisaged career
  • do many hours of babysitting for various women
  • read and teach various women about food-gardening
  • transported a birthing woman to the hospital
  • support women being abused in the workplace
  • believe women who say they have been raped or abused
  • helped a woman understand that what had happened to her was rape
  • comforted a teenage friend when she was raped
  • offer my home for get-togethers of women-only social groups
  • read and support feminist books and sites
  • contributed to Womyn magazine on a volunteer basis (an article on lesbian motherhood)
  • wrote a non-pharmacology article on alternative and nutritional support for ailments (so that money is not spent wastefully on medication)
  • wrote schoolbooks on HIV, actively writing in women's self-assertion, confidence and rolemodelling
  • support women music artists on the fringe (and mainstream)
  • send supportive notes to women doing difficult things on our behalf
  • actively seek and choose women professionals for services
  • CAF - creative activation forum (was all women) - skills exchange group
  • artistic collaboration (attempt) for ansisters - an exhibition of work in multimedia by the FACE constellation
  • intervene when I see women being undermined by men (or other women) in a work situation
  • encourage girls or women with 'you can do it' any chance I get
  • supportively advise women to create win-win situations with troublesome relationships (all kinds)
  • worked in an organisation that actively supported lesbian women with lifestyle information
  • took part in formal Master's thesis survey on violence in lesbian relationships
  • protected abused women by not revealing their whereabouts
  • actively protect women speaking from interruption, and support their input
  • provide caution-information and support to women who want to go for traveling adventures and missionary activities
  • march in pride parades
  • support women-made pornography, by arriving to watch, and verbally, now in writing too
  • actively change the story-telling of children's books to active-female, no-racism
  • network women2women business opportunities
  • take the opportunity to ask if there are women in decision-making capacity in any organisation I take part in
  • supported my mother's decisioning
  • take on men in feminist battles
  • taken teenage girls for contraceptive advice and dispensing
  • bought condoms with my own money and given them away
  • researched and disseminated pregnancy and contraceptive information to anyone and everyone at all opportunities
  • rolemodel not wearing makeup, not shaving and not participating in sexist, paedophillic fashions
  • stayed with a friend who was afraid to stay in a house alone
  • protected a prostitute from being arrested, took her for a meal and treated her like a person
  • read stories to a woman dying of brain cancer
  • supported a friend who was taken in by a cult
  • support and participate in the charity organisations initiated by women
  • speak up to educate lesbians about their own homophobia and isms of all kinds
  • am an out and visible feminist and lesbian - modestly implying I might be a rolemodel
  • volunteered my services at a lesbian organisation
  • boycott companies with sexist policies and/or advertising
  • raise awareness about the pervasiveness of molestation

Cinnamon Gurl sparked this off. Thanks. Each week the Flashback Friday: Feminist Edition will feature a story that has something to do with being or becoming a woman or feminist. This series will continue until I run out of stories. I love having guest bloggers. If you have a story you want to tell and you want to be a guest blogger here, please email me; or feel free to link to your own story in the comments.


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