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On posting a VIDEO of sexism - man freaking out at breast-feeding woman

Actually that always happens when you post this sort of thing. It's the standard defence. So once I posted another one of them - where a woman staged it - TRUE - and many women stage these experiments over and over and over in many countries and get the same kind of thing on video. Then ONE man comes along - NOT the specific video I posted - and stages him staging the woman staging it and men get to say for the rest of time that our experience is invalid.

Look at the content and match it to your experience in the world. Because I get around a lot. I was the ddmbbaw. I've been around. It matches my experience. That's how come I checked and double checked the original source of the first one I ever posted - because I was trolled and my uterus was to be sliced out and dangled over my raped and mutilated mouth.

I do think that independent women get harassed by men who don't want their delicate sensibilities challenged. The rules of the patriarchy must be slavishly followed - or else.

Aside from all this... My point was not about his sexism (and that is the only thing they are focused on subverting - I didn't even mention it - although that is not the only content), it is what the video depicts - I have two entirely different points about process. Whether the video is staged or not does not change the value of the points which these revisionist-masculinists try to distract us from.

But thanks for the warning - I always appreciate that. I would ask you to ask them for their source that this one is staged and that the actors are... depicting a fictionalized not-real-women-never-experience-this scenario-fairy-tale. If I had posted a scene from a movie they would have waved dismissively - patriarchal power is the power to dismiss - and said 'fiction' too. Undermining our ability to ever speak of our experience.

And then ask them if my other two points have anything they'd like to chat about.


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