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How to let go of a friend who is bordering on being a stalker

"Stalkers don't listen well"... Why are you speaking to them? You care too much what people think. Just cut her off. Snip. Do it now, before you become emotionally involved. I had a friend that I did this whole trip with and eventually I had to cut her off anyway. There are only two ways: 1. Either you just snippety. 2. Or you enjoy the attention, smoke the cigarettes, make them cook for you, buy you chocolates, revel in the attention... and then ten years later, snippety. Either way it's snippety. Just one way you feel guilty and the other way you feel horribly guilty.

I would send an email to the stalker, and apologize for sending one.

Hi Hitler

You are driving me bats, please will you f**off and leave me the hell alone.

Thanks
Froglet

PS: I mean it, pig.

... I just nipped out to the video store and the counterperson made a nasty comment about Brokeback Mountain. Tip: What you need before writing the f**off letter is to get someone in a conversation about Brokeback Mountain.

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