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The end of my communications with Ruplestilt

You were all waiting on tenterhooks to find out what the last word was in the debate between Ruplestilt and Froglet. Over the brief month or two that we communicated I suspended my disbelief that there was a man worth noticing out there, and of course, predictably, I realised I had wasted my time:

On 05 May 2006, at 11:22 AM, Ruplestilt wrote (to his boss, but mistakenly Replied All):

It is however interesting to note that Froglet and I subsequently entered into quite lengthy discussions about the whole titling issue, feminism, etc. etc. at a personal level and that a good rapport was established between us relating to the the whole sexist / gender issue. That said - I am no longer communicating with her ... primarily because of her fixed mindset and unreasonable (if not irrational) views on these issues.

In those conversations she acknowledged that she is indeed a gay feminist / activist ... I suspect that she has been hurt in some or other big way and has a huge log on her shoulder about whatever it is that swayed her so drastically ... sad and unfortunate to live life with such negativity and prejudice ... particularly if it was as a result of some hurt or abuse inflicted by someone else.

Just thought you might want a little insight before you respond to her...
Ruplestilt



And I replied to him:

Ruplestilt

Thanks for the heads up.

"In those conversations she acknowledged that she is indeed a gay feminist / activist ... I suspect that she has been hurt in some or other big way and has a huge log on her shoulder about whatever it is that swayed her so drastically ... sad and unfortunate to live life with such negativity and prejudice ... particularly if it was as a result of some hurt or abuse inflicted by someone else."

In fact, none of this is true, and offensive, libellous even.

Sadly men like you don't realise that a woman can be educated enough to believe that this kind of sexism, no matter how subtle it is - that a man cannot perceive it - is offensive. We do not have to be raped/abused/slighted in order to recognise sexism.

There's your heads up.

Your use of my personal relationship with you in this manner indicates what kind of a person you are. But doesn't surprise me.

Froglet



And I'll just bet he is wondering if I sent a note to his boss.
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