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Facebook etiquette

Social Networking Guidelines
(this is not an instruction manual, it's a suggestion collection from various sites)

• change your settings so you don't spam your friends
• invite friends carefully

About yourself
• don't make your address or phone number visible to strangers

Business stuff
• belongs on a page or group, not on your profile

• don't chat unless you have something to say

• keep to topic in a comment thread
• don't change the topic
• don't comment on every post of your stalkee
• reply at least once to comments on your posting
• don't preach
• if your comment gets deleted, take it with grace and apologise
• check your posting for inflammatory language and tone it down
• don't be the first commenter on your status
• don't cause drama and don't keep it going
• don't swear in someone's comments section

• not allowed, move to a restricted profile

Date potential
• wanna date a friends friend? ask your friend for an intro

• 300-500 is normal
• ask before friending a friend's ex
• be friends with your ex but tailor your posts
• ignore friend requests without getting into a big thing about it
• don't friend your friends friends unless you've hit it off in real life
• don't be a serial friender, be discriminatory

• Don't add people, send them a note with an alert about the group

• don't vent about your job or colleagues, even in Message
• you have to friend your boss
• As a boss, don't friend your employees

• don't post, repost or tag pics of people's kids
• don't post pics of your kids in public albums
• don't only post stuff about your children

• don't be a serial liker, be discriminatory

• send message before friending a stranger
• private stuff between two or more people, not one and 300
• don't message more than 5 people at once

• don't post pictures of people in compromising positions
• don't post too many baby pics or pics on a single topic

• don't
• don't repoke if person responds

Relationship status
• leave it alone, or make a mutual decision

• go wild

• don't accept or give money wire transfers
• don't meet strangers in quiet places, or at all
• beware that impersonations take place online

• if your life is mundane, don't let anyone know
• don't repost chain statuses
• don't vent
• one or two status updates a day average
• don't insult people you don't know
• don't brag about illegal activities
• don't post things about your relationship woes

• don't tag people in unglam pics of themselves
• don't tag people in pics not of them
• untag yourself without getting into a big thing about it

• don't mention last nights party or orgy
• don't flame people on your wall
• don't write on someone's wall
• don't swear on someone's wall
• if they swear first, swear away in the comments


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