Flying Shortbread

My comment: I find the psychopath label insulting and would want to see the measure. I certainly could be a psychopath if I am expected to love family that hates my sexuality because of their beliefs, or pressures me to marry, or delays my sexual activities to promote a sexist agenda. How do you measure incredulity - with a psychopath yardstick? I certainly find the cocooning cottonwool white-dove fluffy cloud factory not my definition of deep-conscious emotion either.  I would say that 70% LGBTI homeless teens says it all, that they were expelled from their families heartlessly. I would say that women forced to carry the children to term of careless men and rapists were forced to do so heartlessly. And so much more. Atheists don't stone women for adultery, don't prevent them from driving, don't work in all-male enclaves while turning a blind eye to the humanity of women and children. Religious people think atheists are amoral because morality comes from (god). That's w...

When you are in the closet you drag people around you into the closet. People who have made a choice to not be there. And you treat those people disrespectfully because of your being in the closet. You said it - I can't make those choices because I would be criticised by my community. So don't. Be straight. So I can't visit with you - I will never be invited to your house because I say the word Dyke and I am out. I represent the indefensible thing you can't show your friends about you. That is an insult to me. The fact that you look around you to see who hears what we say. The fact that you can't commit to a friendship. The fact that you choose people who hate homosexuals - bigots - and hide. These are red flags to someone who has their self together. They should not and would not submit to that insult. You have internalized homophobia, or love the drama of the on-off switch. This is your stuff to sort out. You don't need anyone else to help you sort it ...

@Miranda. So what are saying is that I must 'get a more important cause' that you will determine because you haven't spoken out (like a true complicit hater-Christian), the very people I am pleading with you to change the minds of?  I would hold the broader community responsible for the failure of Ubuntu to prevent the murder of homosexuals of I were Black. But if I say that - will I be fired? Called a racist? Silenced with a dismissive wave of a hand. No. You've done that before. To me. Irony lives here.  If you draw a parallel with apartheid, I would be the White person pleading among my 'Friends' for my friends to recognize that Black people have human rights, that they should have the same rights as me.  Just like that, I am asking you to plead among your friends for them not to discriminate against homosexuals and to stop the human rights abuses against homosexuals. You haven't done that, so really...

This is exactly what they want us to be yelling about "Where's our contraception"... sleight of hand to draw our attention away from how the white middle aged men just ripped Roe vs Wade to shreds and danced on it, and we lost a bit of our bodily integrity and are only asking for contraception not abortion. SCORE OLD WHITE MEN. Sorry women, you were fooled.

When I post, my default position remains the same no matter the content of my postings - There is no Truth. However, in any discussion you have to suspend your BELIEF and use PREMISE to play with the variables at hand. This is my Primary Notion. ;

I agree in a box that the baby and the bathwater belong in the same place. However! I like to think about the politics of race like an actual relationship - if your partner is annoyed by your ticking watch on the bedside table, wouldn't you put it in the drawer. Why make unnecessary conflict? #RhodesMustFall When we put the watch in the drawer in a relationship, and we clean the coffee stain, and we fold the socks, and we make tea for two, and we chatter together when we come home for work - our partner is more inclined to make coffee for two. Coffee. I hate going to exhibition openings. So pale. No chatter. I have been to uSpace, I made a mistake there, it was graciously ignored because I made the effort, I will be better next time.

Actually that always happens when you post this sort of thing. It's the standard defence. So once I posted another one of them - where a woman staged it - TRUE - and many women stage these experiments over and over and over in many countries and get the same kind of thing on video. Then ONE man comes along - NOT the specific video I posted - and stages him staging the woman staging it and men get to say for the rest of time that our experience is invalid. Look at the content and match it to your experience in the world. Because I get around a lot. I was the ddmbbaw. I've been around. It matches my experience. That's how come I checked and double checked the original source of the first one I ever posted - because I was trolled and my uterus was to be sliced out and dangled over my raped and mutilated mouth. I do think that independent women get harassed by men who don't want their delicate sensibilities challenged. The rules of the patriarchy must be slavishly f...

@Lance. The short version is never going to do a short version of the male gaze justice because I'm going to focus on my bits.  When a woman looks out of her eyes she sees a world constructed not-for-her. The constructed world tells her what she is allowed and it's very narrowly what-men-want. It's like looking into a padded cell. This is the world you have been given and there's a universe of controllers ready to control your behavior. As a man you have some strictures, but for women it's a vast minefield.  Much of that world is constructed visibly, but men can't see it because they are inside their male gaze and it looks normal to them, 'natural'. Many of the examples you would have encountered on my wall. Women are hairless. Women can be told what to wear. Women can be paid less for the same work. Jobs become 'women's work'. Women should smell like flowers. Women don't have maternity support in the workplace. These are constru...

"I'm sorry it's not for you," and go talk to someone who's open. Pick yourself. Deniability comes from having someone pick you. Capitalism trained us to give up our autonomy for wealth.

Goal > Three ideas > Objective No detours past 'interesting'. Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NUXkThfQx6A

Esther Perel, Affairs in the digital age are a death by a thousand cuts. (Speaking of digital tracking of your lover’s affair. Not leaving, in an era when you can leave, is the new shame. We used to leave because we had to leave, now we leave because we could be happier. “Cheating” in the digital age by Esther Perel #TEDTalks @fakedansavage. Even happy people cheat to feel alive, “is there more”? Esther Perel, That you can never have your lover is a desire machine, keeps you wanting. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, When we are doing what we shouldn’t do, we feel like we are doing what we want to. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, When exposed, couples have discussions they haven’t had in decades, rekindles desire with truth. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, Remorse for hurting the partner, but not for the affair. #TEDTalks Esther Perel, When you stay: Your first marriage is over, do you want to start another one. #TEDTalks Source: Why happy couples cheat - Esther Perel ht...

#Copyright ~ Cory Doctorow​, People who want to buy my stuff must know it exists. Obscurity is the enemy of being paid. Copying solves the 'getting your artistic work to your audience' problem. Families with internet access have better lives on every axis, including nutrition, jobs, education, political engagement.

Top 10 Mistakes Intelligent Men Make With Women | James Social Coach | Full Length HD https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qigOUdAOyRs • if she’s laughing at your jokes • eye contact • touch lightly constantly • look in eyes, then at lips, slowly • interlocking fingers is a kiss test • long hug, breathe as she breathes • find out where she lives • find out what she’s doing tomorrow • find out if her and her friend are drinking • try and draw her away from her friend • ask for a date • do something, don’t not do something • “it’s a gentleman’s job to try to fuck a woman’ must be your mantra • women want someone to sweep them off their feet • women want confidence • confidence comes from knowing what to do • confidence covers uncomfortable moments • energy, be high energy • dress well, then most girls will talk to you • take some time to get into the zone before you suddenly talk to a girl • men think women feel • ditch yo...

TED: Rachel Botsman: The currency of the new economy is trust Reputation is the measurement of how much a network trusts you. As the reputation goes up the more tasks you get and the more you can charge. As we move digitally we leave a reputation trail. Let's make our reputation travel with us from site to site. But one score is not nuanced enough to really reflect us. Influence is not the same as reputation - that people like us does not reflect on whether or not we can do tasks. So how do we collect reputation data. Realtime stream of who has trusted me or responded to a task I have done. My reputation capital dashboard will be checked by others, like Linkedin. TrustCloud, ConnectMe. Your intentions, capabilities and values. It can create an influence positive disruption in who has power, influence and trust, taking power from the current powerholders. We are limited because our reputation currently cannot be measured or seen in relation to the celebrity power holders. M...

If You've Ever Heard Someone Unjustly Talk About Reverse Racism You Have To See This South African's Response http://atlantablackstar.com/2014/05/30/youve-ever-heard-someone-unjustly-talk-reverse-racism-see-south-africans-response/ This white woman is an idiot. But I do think this is a very ungenerous representation of what happened in the referendum. Politics is a process, history is a process. I don't think 'whites ended apartheid'. That would gloss over the many lives of many black activists changed, ruined and taken, not to mention the lives of the few white anti-apartheid activists here, and the many many many activists of all colors everywhere around the world that acted against apartheid. Thank you. You made it happen. ONE of the things that happened was the referendum. The referendum asked "Do you want to end apartheid?". 76% of white people (those who had the political power TO END APARTHEID) in South Africa said that they didn't want it. ...

Tanya: #NSFTS ~ Not Safe For The Sensitive. #Feminism ~ #WhitePrivilege is like #MalePrivilege. Men don't condemn machismo in all its forms because there are so many benefits for them. A shaven pussy, a shaven leg, a domestic servant, a trophy for hunting. They make no effort to hear #WhenWomenSpeak. They make no effort to entertain the voice of feminism. Instead they watch their pals rape, abuse and call women whores. White Privilege is the same, they don't take the time to hear, to listen, to envelope what they hear and try to change themselves to set a standard for their ivory towers. ... Robert: There are better ways of saying this: There are men who don't condemn machismo in all its forms because there are so many benefits for them. A shaven pussy, a shaven leg, a domestic servant, a trophy for hunting. These men make no effort to hear #WhenWomenSpeak. They make no effort to entertain the voice of feminism. Instead they watch their pals rape, abuse and call wo...

• violence interruptors - workers from same group, trained, cool them down, talk reason, buying time • outreach workers - keep people in the program, on therapy for 6-24 months focusing on behaviour change • changing norms - community activities • Chicago project dropped violence 67%, this has worked 20 times between 30% and 70% drop in violence. • criticism 

I agree with the part that suggests, but doesn't state clearly, that it's the 'receiving' male homosexual that is reviled - because he 'becomes the woman'. Homophobists are not-coincidentally also sexists, and I would venture, racists. These kinds of ignorances clump together, have an affinity for one another. To disguise their disgust at the head of the food chain 'acting like a woman' (their most reviled caste member being 'a woman') they expand and justify their bigotry to the 'delivering' man and the women that reflect that pair, the lesbians. And then, to justify their bigotry further... let me go no further, I have been riled up recently by someone demonstrating this point I am making, and I may be ready to blow a fuse. On another note, homophobists use their hatred of gays to establish their 'not-belonging' to the gay group. They parade their heterosexuality so that no one can mistakenly place them in that group. They build...

• shape not react - course correct strategy as necessary • networks - diverse as possible, and can connect, and cooperate to achieve gold • courage - to abandon what has previously worked, cope with ridicule Evernote helps you remember everything and get organized effortlessly. Download Evernote .